Have you and your partner been unsuccessful getting pregnant? It’s something that many people don’t talk about but I want to shine a light on this taboo topic that so many people don’t share.
My story starts in 2016, my husband and I had been married almost 2 years and the one thing on my mind was having a baby. Since the day we got married, all I ever wanted was to have a baby. I’ve always wanted a big family and since I didn’t get married til I was in my late 20’s, I was ready to get the show started.
Well, after a couple years and no pregnancy, I started to worry. I think many of us who are in the same situation that I was in start to freak out a bit. All these questions and ideas come to mind, “What if I will never get pregnant?”, “Is there something wrong with me?”, “Is there something wrong with my husband?”, “Will I ever get pregnant?”, “Will I live in shame the rest of my life if I don’t have a baby?”
The thoughts were endless, I just wanted to get pregnant. From our early teenage years, we were drilled not to have premarital sex because you will get pregnant! While some people are able to get pregnant their first try, that is not the case for many people. Did you know a couple between ages 29-33 with a normal functioning reproductive system has only a 20-25% chance of conceiving in any given month? This blows my mind. You can do everything right during the month (tracking your cycle, having sex on specific days, etc) and you still only have a 20-25% chance of getting pregnant!
During this time of frustration, I had no friends to talk to who would understand. My friends were either not married or were not ready to grow their family. Let me tell you, trying to talk to people about fertility when that isn’t something they’re going through is not fun. As much as they might care, they don’t understand what you are going through or what you are feeling. It’s a tough road.
My husband and I decided it was time to go see a fertility specialist. Hindsight, this should have been the first thing I did instead of stressing over things I couldn’t control. I made the appointment and was terrified for my life. All of those negative and scary thoughts came rushing back into my head about not ever being able to have a baby.
At the appointment, we met with the fertility Dr and went over the basics. Simple questions were asked about our health and sex life. The dr was so easy to talk to and I instantly felt at ease. Being able to talk to someone who completely understood what I was going through made my worries melt away.
There was a standard list of tests that I went through to help determine why we weren’t getting pregnant. Some of the tests included my husband’s sperm test, a hysterosalpingogram (to make sure my tubes were clear), and an ovary check during all visits. It seemed like a lot during the time but looking back I believe my anxiety made it feel like more than it really was. Our Dr determined we were good candidates for ovulation medicine.
Within three months, I was pregnant with Bryce. There was a lot of appointments, a couple shots and some other hiccups during those three months but every single bit was worth it. Looking back at our story gets me emotional. I was so scared for so long but as soon as I went for professional help, everything literally fell into place. It makes me want to scream from the rooftops and tell everybody to go see a fertility doctor no matter if you’re having trouble getting pregnant or not.
I know one of the things that held me back was not knowing who to see about not getting pregnant. You don’t want to just go see anybody but someone who can help you with all your needs. First thing you need to do is call CCRM (Colorado Center for Reproductive Medicine). Don’t let their name throw you off, they have locations all across the United States with one of them actually being right here in the Dallas Metroplex.
Unlike many other fertility clinics that outsource their specialists and testing needs, CCRM leverages its own data, as well as a dedicated team of in-house reproductive endocrinologists, embryologists and geneticists in order to deliver consistent, successful results. If you decide to pursue the IVF route, this is the place you want to go. They have some of the highest IVF success rates in the industry, offering families the fastest path to the healthiest baby.
Dr. Dorette Noorhasan is part of CCRM’s team of award-winning physicians, dedicated to delivering leading patient outcomes,. She is the medical director and co-founder of CCRM Dallas-Fort Worth and practices out of CCRM’s Frisco location located at 8380 Warren Parkway, Suite 201.
CCRM wants to shift the cultural narrative around fertility and family planning, because it is critical to understanding and overcoming infertility. I highly suggest to making an appointment with a fertility specialist as soon as you start to think about having a baby. Start the conversation early and understand the process. It’s the single best thing I ever did. If I never went to see a specialist, I may not have my child. He’s my pride and joy and I want everybody to be able to experience the type of love a child brings into your life.
If you have any questions about the process that I went through, my experience or just need someone to talk to, feel free to reach out! Let’s start the conversation, you are not alone. #LetsTalkFertility #CCRMFertility